The Next Baby...

When you start dating someone, you get to a year and hear, "so, when are you getting engaged?"

You walk down the aisle, come back from the honeymoon and you hear, "so when are you going to have a baby?"

Baby #1 is healthy and you have just returned to work and you hear, "so when is your next one?"

At what point do the questions stop? If I decide that 3-4 years between kids is what is best for us, do I have to put up with 2 more years of questions of when we are going to have our next baby?

I guess I started thinking about this more after discussing this questions with my husband. We got pregnant really fast the second time around, weren't expecting it, and then we miscarried. Are we ready for that again? Should we just enjoy our time with Elizabeth for a while, pay off the car and save a little more? How are we going to afford childcare for 2 babies when I have to go back to work? Why is there so much pressure to have kids so close together?

Believe me, i'm not knocking having babies close together, I was actually pretty excited about it when we got the BFP, but the more I think about it realistically, what if we wait? We would be a little more stable as Mark is trying to find a new job since he just finished school, and maybe i'll have a new job, or at least be making a little more.

I feel pressured to have our children close together, I truly do. Nobody is telling me I have to, but so many of my friends are, my niece and nephew are less than 13 months apart, and I honestly get belly envy, but I need to stop back, breathe and look at what is best for US. And what is best for us right now is to enjoy the 3 of us, enjoy our time knowing that we weren't even sure I would be able to have a baby with all my crazy issues. So even if, a year down the road, I can't get pregnant a second time, we have the most perfect little person carrying around all sorts of traits from her mommy and daddy, and in that, I will be content.